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Thank you, Kathy G! I found it so refreshing to imagine the tables turned in that satire piece. Could you imagine that advice being given to husbands in real life? That really helps me put in perspective the “try harder” advice so many of us are told to take towards marriages that are hurt (sometimes destroyed) by the reality of this addiction. This is why I’ve found 12-step recovery so helpful to me, personally, because when I live like I am powerless over anyone else’s addiction, I stop trying to fix what I didn’t break and start trying to live my life. Yes, there’s a lot of grief (and I mean a LOT OF GRIEF), and there’s a lot of freedom. I’d love to hear anyone else’s experiences.
I’m curious about starting a discussion about a piece of satire that recently came across my Facebook feed. I did not write this, and it’s funny, but in that dark, incisive way, because it hurts to see a reframe on the victim-blaming that seems so rampant in especially Christian (including, sad to say, many Catholic) circles.
I believe you’ll have to be logged into Facebook to see this, but it’s from Sarah McDugal, a coach for women in harmful relationships, especially where lust addiction is experienced.
Hey, Erin K, welcome. I’m glad you found us, but I’m sorry the price of admission is so high 🙁 I’m looking forward to meeting you at a Tuesday meeting soon.
Hi, CIR+ Members!
It’s just one week until the first CIR+ Webinar–Treat Yourself: Holiday Self-care for Catholic Food Addicts. Everyone who joins the webinar will receive a helpful worksheet and come out of it with a self-care plan in place to help you stay out of the food and in the holy celebration with your whole heart, mind, body, soul, and strength.
Just by way of getting in the spirit of getting in the spirit… what are your favorite self-care practices, and why do you think they work?
For me, besides the obvious one of keeping to my daily prayer routines, I also do a daily practice of 10 minutes of nature observation every day: just staring out my window and observing nature. This helps me let things pass, including those cravings.
How about you?
Hey, there… I have a note in my to do app reminding me to share the Tuesday night Lust Addicts Family & Friends questions for discussion on CIR+… and I cannot remember what I meant by reminding myself to do that! LOL trauma brain. Anyway, do any of you fine spiritual siblings have an idea of what that could mean? I’d probably be happy to do this if I remembered what it was I was supposed to be doing?
The Tuesday night women’s LAFF meeting is remarkably similar to an S-Anon meeting in format, only our weekly reflection readings are provided by CIR and based on the upcoming Sunday Mass readings. I look forward to meeting you at one soon!
What an inspiring post. Thanks so much for sharing this with us. I’m especially grateful for your experience in identifying your behavior as betrayal trauma-related. I love how S-Anon recovery and our CIR Tuesday night LAFF meeting are showing me that I have the power to not make a bad situation worse, and that I am free to make my own choices that honor God.
I’d especially like to hear about your coupleship recovery, if you’d be comfortable doing so?
